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Should you hire a new family law attorney?

If you are navigating a divorce, a child custody dispute, an adoption, a domestic violence case or any other family law matter, you have likely hired an attorney to help you through the legal aspects of your situation. Although some legal matters can be successfully navigated without an attorney, family law cases tend to be uniquely complex and uniquely personal. It is therefore arguably just as important to have an attorney who can keep you focused in such an emotionally charged situation as it is to have an attorney who understands the nuances of the family legal system.

But what if your attorney is not keeping you focused? What if your attorney is adding to your stress as opposed to lessening it? Is it time for you to get a new family law attorney? Only you can properly answer this question. But if you are experiencing any of the following red flags, you may want to consider switching counsel. Family law disputes are so personal and their consequences tend to be so long-lasting that if you are not paired with an attorney who is a good fit for you, you should almost certainly find one who is.

Divorced parents should tell their kids these things

We frequently write about the challenges that co-parents tend to face when trying to raise their children from two separate households. But no matter how carefully your child custody arrangements are constructed with your children’s best interests in mind, it is important to remember that your children are likely facing certain challenges related to your split as well.

Co-parents are often very, very busy individuals. Oftentimes, divorced or separated parents must work and juggle childrearing simultaneously. This kind of hectic lifestyle can become overwhelming. However, it is important to pause regularly in order to tell your kids a few simple truths that they will likely need to hear repeatedly, even if they insist that they do not.

Understanding why couples choose to divorce

We frequently write about many of the legal, social and emotional realities that couples often face after choosing to end their marriages. Choosing to divorce can be a lonely experience. However, it is important for divorced and divorcing couples to understand that you are not alone. In addition to numerous qualified attorneys who can help you through the process and its aftermath, a great number of individuals who have previously divorced may be able to offer insight and guidance as you transition from being married to being single.

A newly released survey conducted by Slater & Gordon provides a glimpse into what other divorced individuals may eventually tell you about their past and present experience. The survey results were released after 1,000 divorced individuals answered numerous questions about their divorces.

Legal separation and the concept of conscious uncoupling

A new phrase has been spotted all over the Internet this week. The phrase is “conscious uncoupling.” This phrase widely entered the media and public’s frame of reference after Gwyneth Paltrow used it to title a piece she wrote when announcing her separation from her husband Chris Martin.

Whether or not this phrase survives the media buzz surrounding this couple’s split, it serves as an interesting starting point from which to discuss the subject of legal separation. Many Americans remain confused about what legal separation both means and entails.

Do not fret, simply be prepared if you cohabitate before marriage

There are many reasons why couples choose to live together before marriage. Oftentimes, the economic benefits of sharing living expenses are simply practical. A couple may be unsure if they want to marry and opt to cohabitate first in order to see if their living habits mesh well. In addition, far less pressure to marry before living together exists now than ever before. Therefore, couples are increasingly choosing to cohabitate for these and many other reasons.

Good news about this kind of living arrangement has recently been announced in the form of a study. This study was conducted by a professor at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She has determined that there is no link between choosing to cohabitate before saying “I do,” and an increased likelihood that cohabitating couples who eventually marry will ultimately divorce.

Keep these things in mind when navigating a family law dispute

If you have decided to divorce, to modify an existing child custody agreement or to engage in any other kind of family law dispute, it is important to keep a few things in mind as you move forward. As you may know, family law tends to be an intensely personal area of law. As a result, many of the legal strategies and tactics that you may see employed on television, in movies and in books in regards to other areas of law are likely not useful in the family law context.

For example, it may benefit you to go to trial. However, because family law is so personal, family law disputes are often best settled by negotiation, mediation or some other alternative to litigation.

Could divorcing actually do your kids more good than harm?

If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, you almost certainly have concerns about the future. You are likely concerned about financial matters, relationship issues and potentially overwhelming emotions. And if you have children, you are almost certainly concerned about how your divorce will affect them. Thankfully, experts suggest that divorcing may be the healthiest choice you can make for both yourself and your children.

If your marriage is unhappy, tension-filled or otherwise unhealthy, these dynamics are almost certainly affecting your children. Some couples can work through unhappy, tense and unhealthy periods in their marriages but many others benefit from the ultimately healthy choice of moving forward seperately. If you take excellent care of both yourself and your children during and after your divorce, you will all likely be healthier and happier than you would if you chose to stay in an unhappy and unhealthy union.

Address these family law issues before tying the knot

You may think that the only time you need to visit an attorney in regards to your marriage is if you and your future spouse ever decide to separate or divorce. However, if you are engaged, there are several family law matters that you need to take care of before your big day. And a few of them may require a trip to the attorney’s office.

First, you need to apply for a marriage license. This errand will likely require a trip to your county’s courthouse or other place of administrative business. Make sure to secure your license well-enough in advance that you do not run into any waiting periods that might spoil your intended wedding day.

Apologies can be powerful forces during family law disputes

Many of our readers may be familiar with the fact that physicians can significantly reduce their chances of incurring medical malpractice lawsuits if they simply deliver a heartfelt apology to the family of any patient who has suffered consequences as a result of mistakes made by those physicians. It says a great deal about the human spirit that even in the darkest of hours, apologies can be so well received and so meaningful to those who need to hear them.

It is interesting to note that apologies also can work wonders during family law disputes. Oftentimes, families only end up deadlocked in divorce, child support, child custody and related cases after one or more of the parties involved has felt significantly rejected, disrespected and otherwise hurt by another party involved in the dispute. In these cases, delivering a heartfelt apology and remaining open to hearing the hurt party vent his or her feelings can result in progress for the dispute as a whole.

Maintaining perspective during the divorce process

There are few things more trying in life than ending a once happy, devoted and hopeful marriage. This kind of transition from one phase of life to the next understandably produces a host of negative emotions. And yet, the divorce process itself can be so draining that you may feel like you have no energy to work through these negative emotions in healthy ways. We have previously mentioned that taking excellent care of yourself can dramatically impact your divorce process for the better. But taking care of yourself may be a daunting task if you lack perspective.

It can be truly difficult to gain perspective about your divorce when you are in the middle of it. However, keeping the following series of words in the forefront of your mind will hopefully help you to regain perspective faster than you otherwise might. When you are struggling, think to yourself, “Past, present, future.” Why? Because each of these words signifies an important part of the perspective you will need in order to navigate your divorce with grace and dignity.

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